Rules

These are rules I try to live by and it's an attempt at simplifying different aspects of my life.

I keep expanding this list and read it every few days to remind myself to practice what I preach. I've written these for no one but me, if you find something useful, awesome :)

Life
  • Nobody owes you anything

  • Assume good intent

  • If you agree with someone, learn and move on

  • If you disagree with someone, learn and move on

  • Things are usually not as bad as they seem

  • Be over optimistic. Prepare for worst-case scenarios

  • Be honest with yourself and others (without being mean)

  • Don't complain about things you can't change

  • Say yes often when you're getting started, say no often after that

  • Knowing something is not the same as internalizing it

  • Realize your privilege, don't take it for granted or feel guilty about it

  • Be nice because you are, don't expect anything out of it

  • Both good and bad things you think you don't deserve happen, accept it with grace

  • Both good and bad things take time to happen, course correct and be at it

  • Know what you're compromising, be fine with it

  • It's okay to not have opinions

  • Don't put labels on yourself, and others

  • If you feel exhausted, pause. If that doesn't help, endure. If you can't endure, quit and be fine with the outcome

  • Don't judge others for their choices, feelings or opinions

  • Be curious about everything

  • Take your time to process extremely happy or extremely sad situations before reacting

  • Know yourself better, learn what makes you happy, sad, angry, anxious or overwhelming

  • Don't pretend to be what you are not

  • Don't project yourself as superior in any situation, you are not

  • Don't confuse luck with smartness

  • Not getting what you want is a good fuel for getting what you want

  • Don't let rejections of any kind make you feel inadequate, but learn from them

  • Introspect when something offends you

  • Define what success means to you

  • Be an independent thinker

  • Listen well: be genuinely interested, don't be distracted and ask questions

  • Be more virtuous in actions than in words

  • Don't think about what others are thinking of you

  • Be okay with the outcome of your conscious choices

  • Be aware that you have blind spots in every aspect of life

  • Avoid self-pity

  • Figure out the root of your insecurities and gradually work towards feeling secure

  • If people can benefit from sharing it, share it

  • If you notice an act of kindness, acknowledge and appreciate it

  • If you don't ask, the answer is no

  • Have fun, however you define it

Relationships

  • Go out of your way to make your loved ones feel special

  • Remember and remind people of small things (and big things)

  • Check in on how they're doing often

  • Express gratitude often

  • Express genuine praise and compliment often

  • If you love someone, tell them

  • Love unconditionally

  • Respect people, let it show in your words and actions

  • Don't share your problems while hearing theirs

  • Over communicate

  • Say people's names when talking to them

  • Don't expect people to change

  • If you expect something out of them, tell them

  • Show genuine support for the work they do

  • Everyone has imposter syndrome, hype them up, be their biggest cheerleader

  • If you trust them, don't question their integrity or intent

  • If you know someone's unwell, check in if they're feeling better after a few days

  • People like being taken care of, do that if you can

  • Assume everyone has gone through unexplained trauma, because they have

  • Make people feel comfortable during uncomfortable situations and conversations

  • Acknowledge and apologize for your mistakes

  • When you need to apologize: Explain intent, empathize with what they're feeling & don't give excuses

  • It's okay to lose arguments with people you love even when you're right

  • Buy presents for your parents, friends and loved ones

  • Write letters (or use other art forms to express yourself better)

  • Don't ignore people (unless they're being negative or making you feel uncomfortable)

  • Don't fake indifference

  • Don't be passive aggressive

  • Don't hold grudges

  • Don't deal with people who are always angry, complaining or conflicting your thoughts

  • Be conscious of other people's feelings

  • Don't invest in one-sided relations, they drain you. Do what you need to process it, acknowledge your feelings and move on

  • The only way to know if you can trust someone is to trust them

  • Everyone (including people you love) is a combination of good and not-so-good things, you can't pick and choose, accept them as they are

  • If your mom is a housewife: top up her bank account (create one if it doesn't exist) and ask her to mandatorily spend on something for herself every month

  • Be conscious that women generally have a harder life in many ways, put effort to make it better for them

  • Put active effort in nurturing relations you care about

Work

  • Don't work with people you don't like

  • Work hard to attract opportunities, work harder when you get them

  • Setup time to do deep work

  • Constantly upskill

  • Learn more about the industry you work in

  • Interact professionally with people who don't belong to your industry

  • Pick your battles

  • Set ambitious goals, then figure how to achieve them

  • Try re-framing problems if you can't solve them

  • Ask specific questions

  • Give credit, take blame

  • Praise in public, criticize in private

  • Don't indulge in office politics

  • Don't be mean or rude towards your colleagues

  • Giving good feedback is an art, spend time mastering it

  • Seek active feedback to improve yourself

  • Over communicate

  • Get extremely good at written communication

  • Do what you said, by when you said you'll do it. Proactively communicate if you aren't able to do it

  • Punch above your weight, go beyond what you're expected to do

  • The reward for good work is more work

  • Don't complain about having too much work

  • Manage your energy, not your time

  • Back young folks

  • Actively look out for and get into opportunities that have unlimited upside but limited downside

Health

  • Exercise and meditate daily

  • Go on walks

  • Know what you're eating and be okay with what it does to your body

  • Do yearly body checkups even if nothing's wrong

  • Breathe from your belly

  • Take frequent deep breaths

  • Hug people

  • Pet animals

  • Smell nice

  • Stand often, stretch often

  • Do whatever it takes to help you sleep well

  • Learn to rest well

  • Anxiety affects you both mentally and physically. Know the triggers, symptoms and gradually work towards solutions

  • Know what affects your mood and do more of what makes you feel good

  • Label your feelings and understand their roots

  • Write about what you're feeling (or express yourself in other self-fulfiling ways)

Finance

  • Invest in index funds

  • Don't interrupt your investments

  • Don't confuse insurance with investments

  • Don't confuse speculations with investments

  • Figure out the monetary value of your time

  • Money can give you more time if you use it smartly

  • Optimize money for sleeping well at night

  • Take active bets with money you're comfortable losing, but know that they're bets

  • Spend without thinking on things you care about, cut down on other things

  • Work towards getting fuck you money

Misc

  • Keep all phone and desktop notifications off by default

  • Keep phone silent on all times

  • Use keyboard shortcuts

  • Give generous tips to service workers (surprise by giving 10x once in a while if you can)

  • Don't argue on the internet

Lastly..